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June 28, 2015

New Every Mourning…

God’s mercies are new every morning. And with the dawn, wise men have said that Joy comes.

I have often found this to be true.

Today, as I sat quietly, welcoming the first light of the day, a new perspective came into view. You see, some sunrises don’t hold smiles or giggles. Instead they bring a batch of fresh tears… hot and erupting.

Grief will surprise us with it’s presence from time to time.

It’s been 6 months since my big brother took his last breath on Christmas morning last year. When waves of grief come, it is not a debilitating, soul-crushing experience anymore… not like it was in the beginning. The emotion comes to the surface, spills out and somehow leaves me a little lighter. A little stronger, even. This is new. And in my heart I accept this as part of the journey.

God’s mercies are new every mourning.

Somewhere in the midst of this grieving process, a shift has come. Now, when sorrow passes over me like a cloud, I realize it is only to bring a shower of remembrance and a reminder of never ending connection. For me and those who are growing in understanding of bereavement, there is precious hope.

We still love.

We are still loved.

And that love lives on forever.

Lord, thank you for new mercies that are lavished upon us… especially on the mornings that we are greeted with fresh grief. May we feel the consequences of opening our hearts and lives to deep, deep love. May we look to you for comfort and enlightenment when relationship shifts from the physical form we understand most. Let us never become reluctant to feel our way through the full experience. We choose to let love overwhelm our heart, overflow from our eyes and run down our cheeks… knowing that this, too, is a part of living a gorgeous life. 

Thank you, for the dawn of a new day and the new mercies that are revealed in the mourning.

With gratitude and peace in knowing,


March 2, 2011

Word-Filled Wednesday – The Kindest of Clothing

“What to wear… what NOT to wear”… it’s the question that resounds each day of our lives, as we try to present our prettiest picture to the world around us.
Whether we are heading into the office for the day, playing chauffeur or preparing for a great night on the town, we ponder what will be most appropriate, flattering and well, I’ll say it… slenderizing 😉

The clothes we put on our bodies are meant to be a source of protection from outside elements, comfort, warmth and yes, individualism. What we choose to put on expresses our intentions to those who see us and tells our story long before we ever speak.

Colossians 3:12 (through 14) encourages us in this:

So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it. ~Message Bible

Ah, don’t you just love that imagery?!
I think God just may be into the “layered” look 😉

Have a beautiful day! Love sure does look GREAT on you,

For more inspiration, click here!



February 15, 2006

>Suprised by LOVE

>Yesterday was such a wonderful day. For the first time in such a looooong time, Valentine’s Day was a JOYFUL day in my life. Not because I had some amazing romantic encounter, 3 dozen roses or an engagement ring from the man of my destiny…. but simply because the Lord caused a heart change in me during the wee hours of the morning. In that time.. as I poured out my heart, he was pouring back in. Refreshing my wells, if you will.

I’ll share with you one of my “fears” about Valentine’s Day…. that every woman around me… at work, home and anywhere else will be “celebrated” while I rejoice with and for them yet another year. I know… it’s not nice…. but it’s unapologetically real.
That’s one of those hurts that I wanted to really release to Him.
As I talked and listened… I realized something.
What is going on in me…. what has happened to my mind and heart.
I began to notice that there were no tears this year…. my heart didn’t hurt… and my mind was not confused!!! I was actually EXCITED about walking out this Valentine’s Day!!!

Well I don’t know about you…. but this was BIG for me :0)

So I went to work… loved on everyone and received their love…. and it was just a sweet sweet day. It’s been very busy so the time passed quickly.
Around 2 in the afternoon… IT happened :0)

“Someone has a delivery… someone has a delivery”!! And I’m thinking… awww that is soo sweet.
Well coming straight for me is a great, big, purple stuffed bunny(now affectionately named “Lavender” and a precious heart vase with yellow and red roses!!!!!

To my absolute shock and DELIGHT they were for ME!!!!

How totally amazing!
How totally like LOVE:0)

Needless to say, I was so completely blown away. I had no idea.

I share this story not to brag at all…. or to make you sad …. but to encourage you.

Those roses and that sweet little bunny were from my Father in heaven…. sent by my earthly angel…. my Best Friend in this life… Reco!

Reco…. let me just boast a little about the Jesus in Him.
He is THE MOST HUMBLE and loving person I have ever encountered. He has been through hell and back…. and all with a radiant and triumphant smile on face. He is completely and solely in Love with His Creator… and is daily surrendering his all for the Glory of God.
I am encouraged by him.
I am taught by him.
I am changed by the Love of the Lord through him.
I am so very greatful for all that he is!
HE is like Valentine’s every single day of my life… I kid you not.

I pray that you too, have someone in your life who exemplifies Jesus…. someone who is outside of themselves and longing to always be only in Christ.
That’s Reco for me.

I pray that one day, I will be that for someone too.

Nancy Keeth has affectionately termed this type of person your “Tony the Beat Poet”.
We’re reading the book “Blue like Jazz”… and there is a character in the book by this name.
In short… it is the type of person who keeps you real…. keeps you honest…. and I’ll take the liberty of saying that they keep you close to themselves but even closer to Christ!

Thank you, Reco.
Thank you, Nancy.

Dear Daddy…Dear LOVE,

I want to publicly thank you for walking through the day with me yesterday. We had such a great time in the wee hours of the morning. Thanks for loving on me the way you do.
No one in this world can be as sweet as you are.
No one in this world can be as lovely and keep me in love with them as much as I am with You!
You are amazing!
I was soooo suprised yesterday when you showed up with the Bunny and the Flowers!
Thank you…. for dispelling a 30 year old lie… that I was undeserving of that type of affection.
Thank you… for breaking that bondage in my head and heart.

One gift, Lord. Just one…. how it can change a person’s life.
YOU are that gift for me.
And even still you choose to give me more.
Thank you for Reco…. bless him 100 fold for his obedience to you.

Thank you so much for all the ways that you prove your love .

I love you all…. and pray that you are encouraged!
Have a fabulous day…. u2 may be suprised by LOVE (I hope so),


February 14, 2006

>Be Mine

Here’s my little Valentine!
Isn’t he precious?!!
This is my sweet nephew…..Tayo is his name…. and he has captured my heart.

I hope that today is a joyful one for you!

This morning has started earlier than usual for me. My eyes popped open at about 130 am…. (okay so I went to bed extremely early too. Yes, it was only 745p…. but I was sleepy… and now it will definitely be a Starbucks morning)!!

Waking up early is one of my favorite things about this life. When everything is quiet, peaceful and still, I feel most right with the world. I don’t know about you… but my thoughts are loud and my mind is noisy… so it’s in the Quiet Hours of the morning… that my soul can stop shouting over the volume of distractions and responsibilites of each day.
Here.. I find true rest.
Here… I find real peace.
And most of all, Love.

As I was catching up on some emails this morning…. I came across a beautiful expression of this Love…. and it is the first of the many precious gifts that the Lord shall give to me this Valentine’s Day. I want to give this gift to you…. praying that it will bless you too.

Fill my cup, Lord.
I hold it up to you with outstretched hands,
My heart parched and thirsty for your living water.
Fill my cup with your love, Lord.
Help me to feel your hands holding mine,
feel your arms around me, feel your love empowering me.
Fill me with quietness and encouragement and trust.
Help me to live for you when trials, difficulties,
and storms hit me and those I love so deeply.
Help me not to give up when giving up seems easier.
Help me to trust you when I don’t feel like trusting anymore.
When I know pain, fill my cup with prayer.
Teach me the secrets of service and surrender.

Fill my cup, Lord. I lift it up to you.
Lift me up to do your will with love and sacrifice,
Never forgetting what you sacrificed for me-
Your Son.
My Messiah.
My Lord Jesus Christ.
Help me, Lord, to accept where I am now.
Help me to know I’m not stuck forever in my circumstances.
Help me remember that the windows do open
and that fresh breezes do blow in
and that living water forever flows
and that those who ask receive.
I’m asking, now, Lord.
I’m holding my cup in my hands,
And I’m asking you to fill it . . . with you.
. . . .
And when my cup springs a leak,
As earthen vessels are prone to do.
Then I’ll just have to ask again,
Trusting in your love
To fill me again . . .

Happy Valentine’s Day to you….. My prayer today is that you not be found empty…. but that you would know the depth of His Great Love for you! That above all the other voices… you would hear His the loudest…. gently asking you to “Come… and be mine”!

With an overflowing heart!

December 23, 2005

>Precious Gifts!

My amazing sister Trina… and my beautiful new nephew Tayo… having fun washing the do! Posted by Picasa

Isn’t this a fun shot!
For all who have never met her… I have a really amazing woman that I am privileged to call my sister. Her name is Trina Dukes….whoops,… I mean Trina Ashadele!
She’s my upclose Oprah!

Well for those of you who know how much I love Oprah.. that’s a reallll big compliment!
Anyway… I love my big sister dearly…. and although we were not the best of friends growing up… I am truly enjoying this new and wonderful chapter in the story of our sisterhood!

It was only two very short months ago that Trina gave birth to the little one who has stolen my heart! He is so very precious to me…. a true gift from God.

There are many more pics to come…. I just thought this one was so adorable… I wanted to share it right away!

Today… be blessed! Embrace Who and What you have… enjoy them completely. They are a precious gift to you!

Love you all,

May 25, 2005

>Keep that Love

>Can we keep love.

I live with two of the most amazing people I have ever met…..and I don’t say that because they are perfect…. surely they are not. And neither am I.
We are a patchwork family… from different cloths, yet knit together with the love of God.

Mama Hight and Reco have accepted me into their home….not as a fair-weather friend or a visitor. They have given me not only a beautiful place to stay, continual gourmet meals and kindness overflowing…. they have given me their hearts and unconditional love at all times.
There is not a day that goes by that I don’t realize that God alone could provide for me all that He has through them… and I am forever grateful.

Upon reflection… the past year of my life has been filled with people who were willing to open their homes to me. Being so independent in nature… this season of “needing others” has been difficult and yet refreshing. It has shown me purity of heart and motive… and also shown me the lack thereof….in myself and others.
By being on the receiving end of such giving people… I am changed forever.
Before this time of community came into my life, I was not as open and accomodating to others… and probably would not have been able to receive someone into my personal space, as they do.

There are so many excuses we all can use …..finances, not enough space, not wanting to share personal space, “I have to have it this way or that”, they must respect my home by doing things this way…. the reasons are endless if that is the mindset.

It is only now… because of this new chapter in my life that I can clearly see that there is a portion of the word that the Body of Christ has not been great at following. I will be the first to admit that this has been vital for seeing beyond my self righteous attainment. So often in scripture the Lord commands us to put others before ourselves… and yet I find myself falling short of that.

One thing that Mama Hight always says when we’re talking about relational issues is that “If you keep that Love… it all will work out”. The first time she said it, I chuckled inside because of the way she said “Keep that Love”…. but now I remember that phrase throughout my day. It doesn’t matter whether I’m dealing with a client who’s preoccupied, a friend who doesn’t do or say things as I would like for them too, a family member who is unresponsive or my own inconsistencies with self and others… I remember to first love myself and then my neighbor in the same way…. and as long as Love is in the mix… it will all work out.

Maybe this all comes a little easier for you… but I put forth a challenge. Why not today, try something a little different…. (okay, so maybe you’re already doing this…then kudos to you, really….. but if you’re not…)
When you feel those negative thoughts and feelings arising about yourself or someone else…. do yourself a favor and Keep That Love. Ask yourself if you’ve done all you can (notice I did not say all you want) to express love to that person who’s on your mind or heart. If there is tension… reach out to them with love… no matter who’s fault the problem is. Unconditional grace is such a beautiful thing to both give and receive.

I guarantee that if you do something different… and Keep That Love…. things will work out all right!

With a Happy Heart!

P.s. Here’s a little scripture bonus that’ll bless you 🙂

The Message
Matthew 25
Read This Chapter
25:34 -46
“Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Enter, you who are blessed by my Father! Take what’s coming to you in this kingdom. It’s been ready for you since the world’s foundation.
And here’s why: I was hungry and you fed me, I was thirsty and you gave me a drink, I was homeless and you gave me a room, I was shivering and you gave me clothes, I was sick and you stopped to visit, I was in prison and you came to me.’
“Then those ‘sheep’ are going to say, ‘Master, what are you talking about? When did we ever see you hungry and feed you, thirsty and give you a drink?
And when did we ever see you sick or in prison and come to you?’
Then the King will say, ‘I’m telling the solemn truth: Whenever you did one of these things to someone overlooked or ignored, that was me – you did it to me.’
“Then he will turn to the ‘goats,’ the ones on his left, and say, ‘Get out, worthless goats! You’re good for nothing but the fires of hell.
And why? Because – I was hungry and you gave me no meal, I was thirsty and you gave me no drink, I was homeless and you gave me no bed, I was shivering and you gave me no clothes, Sick and in prison, and you never visited.’

“Then those ‘goats’ are going to say, ‘Master, what are you talking about? When did we ever see you hungry or thirsty or homeless or shivering or sick or in prison and didn’t help?’
“He will answer them, ‘I’m telling the solemn truth: Whenever you failed to do one of these things to someone who was being overlooked or ignored, that was me – you failed to do it to me.’
“Then those ‘goats’ will be herded to their eternal doom, but the ‘sheep’ to their eternal reward.”

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